A positive attitude is the true attitude of a human being. Grateful words are a depiction of positivity. When we go through the process of life and meet through incidents, it sometimes makes us bitter and rude, which further leads to many negative thoughts that badly affect our personality.
Shannon Kaiser- A life coach, inspirational writer, and motivational speaker stated in her book called Find Your Happy Daily Mantras that:
“Positive thinking is important for you right now. Any troubling, negative thoughts could prevent you from reaching your goals. Instead of worrying about what could go wrong, start to celebrate what could go right.”Shannon Kaiser
There is no way I disagree with her. Although you need motivation in your life, and if there isn’t anyone to boost your morale, you should find inspiration within yourself and take out all the negative energies that are trying to pull you back from the path of self-love.
It would be helpful to accept yourself and your flaws to create a synergy that will engulf all the negative waves beaming from yourself. Once you accept yourself, you will be able to level up and start loving yourself.
In this post, I would like to share my own experience with you. Just like a new year resolution, I set some positive affirmations to follow that changed my opinion about self-love and its importance in my life.
What is self-love?
Self-love is a more advanced state of mind in which you realize that your responsibility to love yourself is greater than any other. Putting yourself first when it comes to the feeling of love is instead a constructive approach than selfishness. A person who has self-love is more likely to love other people too in their surroundings.
Why is it important in our life?
Self-love is vital to be successful in every aspect of your life. A self-loved person would generate and emit positive energy waves that seem to encompass other people too. It also develops different related feelings of self-belief, self-awareness, and self-confidence. It has a powerful impact on your social life, family, work, and business.
It is mostly needed by the people often successful in their lives because of hard work but lost their compassion towards themselves. Having low self-worth is directly proportional to self-hate and inversely proportional to self-love. It would be best to have confidence in yourself to tear the vague wall of negativity and start self-loving.
Some tips on how to boost loving yourself
Changing our negative attitude towards life
Sometimes it is tough to change your attitude but remember, it is not impossible. Negativity is one vital thing that alone could destroy every good in your life. Try to erase one by one; it is not an overnight process, so do not even expect it from yourself that you can change yourself like a flash.
Negative thoughts are very harmful to your productivity too. Suppose you are working to meet the deadline and the devil whisper in your ear that “It is not gonna work,” or maybe you are going to propose the love of your life and something pinches in your mind. “What if she/ he says NO.” It will ruin the joy of the moment, and you will be thinking of an outcome that is not even real.
Positive thoughts, on the other hand, build confidence in you. It gives you courage while processing your fears, and it gives you the strength to face the result with a constructive approach.
Identify bad habits to overcome negativity
Bad habits are really very injurious to your physical as well as mental health. Most of all, it wastes the time that you can spend on any worthwhile activity. Secondly, you do it to get over the stress, but the reality is they make you more stressed because deep down, you know that these bad habits are consuming you.
No matter how colorful and trendy it would look, bad habits will never improve your character; instead, it will sabotage your individuality. It makes you guilty in your own eyes; thus, you let go of your self-confidence and self-belief.
Improvising good habits or at least quitting the bad habits is the first baby step towards self-love. Start with passing smiles to everyone, even to people you do not know. You could start getting rid of a bad habit gradually. I would suggest quitting the one that you think is the least injurious.
Self-love automatically boosts confidence and improve trust in you. A confident individual identifies himself and knows the worth of his self-esteem. A confident person has the power of speaking his mind without getting afraid of other’s people opinions.
Confidence develops characteristics such as listening more than talking, maintaining eye contact with people, facing challenges in a calm poise, and clarifying what they want to achieve in life. They set realistic goals and work smartly rather than perfectionists, who push hard to achieve a fictitious desire.
Treat yourself with kindness
Please be kind to yourself. Do not curse yourself if you make a mistake. I know it is not easy but try to laugh at your mistakes and think of ways to accept them. Mistakes are coverable, curable, mendable, and erasable; it’s just a matter of time.
You have a long list of achievements; that is why you have come this far. There is no good in blaming yourself; it will distress your mind instead. Please yourself by celebrating small achievements or at least pat your own shoulder; trust me, it feels so good.
How to increase self-love using positive affirmation?
A positive mental attitude described in nice and graceful words is positive affirmations. These words can be written on a wall of your room so that you got to look at them every day. If you are a diary person and like to write your daily routine in a diary, you can write them down on your journal’s cover, and you can also make a colorful printout and paste it near your desk at work.
In the early days, you should remind yourself to read them daily and count how many you have practiced all day long. You can pick one positive affirmation at a time and start practicing it daily, then select another, so on so forth.
Once you start practicing them, you will notice the change in yourself. You will feel more happy than usual. While practicing these positive affirmations for self-love, get ready to get the compliments and acclamation for your positive attitude.
They will develop characteristics that make you worthy of a global description of it.
Affirmations which one should follow
- I know my flaws, and I accept my true self.
- I believe in myself.
- I learn from my mistakes.
- I can achieve my goal.
- I am human, and human makes mistakes.
- I am comfortable in my own skin.
- I respect myself.
- I make the best of every situation.
- I enjoy my life.
- I seek positivity.
- I turn challenges into opportunities.
- I have control over my choices.
- I stand on my words.
- I respect other’s individuality.
- I respect other’s opinions and philosophy of life.
- I accept others for who they are.
- I contribute my talents and knowledge for the good of all.
- I have a lot to offer.
- I value my time, input, and energy.
- I make maximum use of my time.
- I support others in their week times.
- I take full responsibility for my decisions.
- I have the patience to compose my self in any situation.
- I pledge to learn something new every month.
- I am an open-minded soul.
- I want to be the best of that I can be.
- I appreciate all the good things in my life.
- I believe everything works out for the best.
- I want to live a meaningful and productive life.
- I look forward to the future and my role in it.
- I face every challenge with a smile.
- I adore my body and shape.
- I do not compare myself to others. Everybody is unique.
- I follow my instinct because my feelings are valid.
- I speak my mind.
Positive affirmations for self-love are short and meaningful yet easy to follow. It does not mean that you cannot set descriptive affirmations. Try to set and practice them simultaneously to practice the previous one when you put another. Positive affirmations give meaning to your daily chores, which you do regularly. Positive affirmations make those small gestures and habits expressive and eloquent.
They would transform your persona bit by bit, and you will become a perfect version of yourself. By the time you observe positive changes in your life, you will thank yourself for making such an effort in search of self-love.
Do you like any of the above-mentioned affirmations? Which ones will you make yours? Go ahead, and share with us in the comments.